My mum died of cancer a few days ago she fought it 3 times she was only 42 does anyone have any advice how to try deal with it. I am an only child and it was always just me and my mum
So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment, loosing our mum's are one of the hardest things we ever go through ... all I can say, is go with it ... feel whatever you need to .. you yell or cuss at cancer, it has no compation ..
But just look in the mirror... she's right there, half of you .. she made you ... just keep her safe tucked up in your heart now ... and she will see through your eyes .. just because we can't see our mum's, doesn't mean they are not around ....
You will have a rollercoaster year, ups and downs ... it's all part of being blessed with wonderfull mum's.. that's why it hurts so much .. yes we learn to live with missing them, but it never goes away .. when I lost my mum in my 30s ... I tried to do things that would make her proud .. or smile ..now I'm on my cancer journey..... I know when I go, I want my son to miss me, but oh how I want to see him smile ...
We are always joined to our mum's with an invisible cord ... so take things a day at a time .. look up, and say hi ... she'll see you ... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx
I would strongly, strongly recommend grief counselling. You can get this through the NHS too if you ask your GP. Really try to keep on top of your mental health as this is a time when you need this most.
I would also strongly, strongly recommend listening to some podcasts like Where's The Grief and Dealing with my Grief. In Dealing with my grief, the guy talks about losing his dad at age 10. It's always helpful to listen to someone who can understand your pain. There are also many cancer specific podcasts out there that will help.
finally, try to keep on top of your exercise. Remember that some light exercise if a great way to clear your head, especially when it feels like the world is crashing around you. Try to go for walks in nature, for 30 mins every day.
lastly, it's ok to cry. Let it all out. Speak about your grief, don't bottle it in. Keep a diary and write your emotions down each day.
Grieving is a process and it will take you time. I also want to say that please know that there are many people that love you and you have a lot to live for still. You are your mother's legacy and she has left something truly beautiful in this world. You have her love still with you and she will forever remain a part of you.
