Darling dad died from cancer - my story

Thought I would share my story as I read so many posts on this site over the last few months. My wonderful dad died over the Christmas from prostate cancer spread to , bladder/ liver/ lungs / lymph / bones ....( and many other places :-(   ) he had been battling prostate cancer for 15 years, the last 3 years were very hard .... clinical trials / chemo/ surgery and other complications . 9 weeks ago we found out about the terminal diagnosis and the extent of the spread.  He was such a strong man & his positive mind was unwaivering .... he hoped he'd get longer but it was not to be. End of life symptoms ( last 3 weeks ) were extreme fatigue : I mean sleeping every 30 minutes , no appetite ( energy smoothies) and severe depression .... to see the most positive decline like this was heartbreaking .... he took a bad turn over Christmas . He had a ruptured bowel  & died within 5 days. He was on morphine pump and was on it for 4 days  - ge died at home with his whole family around him, finally at peace ..... I just hope this helps people with questions - especially about end of life. Seeing my dad suffer was unbearable but we never really believed he would die as he had always been so strong all his life. I'm still in shock, it came quick in the end. Much love to all going through this awful painful time x 

  • So sorry to hear your news.

    I am going through a similar thing now, my Nan went into hospital last Friday because she had a bladder infection and after tests and scans it revealed that the breast cancer she beat 5 years ago has spread to her liver and bones. The liver is failing and they have estimated she has weeks left to live. She is home now and we are doing everything we can to enjoy these moments. She is so strong though and still mobile, so we are all in huge denial. 
    We are all terrified and praying for a miracle. 
     

    I hope you and your family are supporting each other at this difficult time. 

  • Crying my eyes out reading your post I'm so sorry ou lost your Dad, I know how you feel as I lost mine on the 10th January it has been the worst thing I've ever been through. 
    My Dad also got severely depressed at the end & sometimes I found his mental state the worst part. I could see he was depressed & frightened & that I couldn't handle & didn't know how to. 
    people say to take comfort that they are now at peace & I am glad my Dad isn't suffering but I miss him so much & I'm so heartbroken I don't know what to do with myself. 
    I cannot believe that your Dad was fighting prostrate cancer for 15 years that is unbelievable & amazing what a strong man! But I feel absolutely crushed that you had 15 years of worry & stress as I know what it's like & it takes over. 
    I wish you all the best & god bless your Dad! 
    I'm absolutely dreading my Dads funeral I hope I can find the strength xx xx