Hi VictoriaL

I am so sorry you have had to go through this at such a young age. It really is the hardest thing you'll ever go through. 

I lost my beautiful mum 2 months ago, and the pain is just unbearable as you know. I am 29. 

You have some massive herdals coming your way but try and remember that your mum is with you in spirit, speak to her, and remember the good times. 

Speaking to your doctor would definitely be a good idea, I'm attending councilling as I have struggled a lot since mum going with my mental health. They can help. 

Take care of yourself

Emma xx

Hello VictoriaL and welcome to the forum. 

I'm so sorry to hear that your Mum passed away just a few days ago. It's hard losing a parent at any age but I can imagine that for you it's feeling very difficult at the moment. 

I'm really glad to hear that you have people around you that you can talk to. please do keep talking. I know that it can sometimes feel like talking makes it worse or more painful but it's an important part of being able to work through your thoughts and feelings. 

I wanted to let you know about another couple of websites that you may find helpful. Both RipRap and Hope Again are aimed specifically at young people who have lost someone. You may find that you're able to connect with others of a similar age who understand what you're going through. 

I hope that these help over the coming days and weeks as you try to find your balance again with things. Do look after yourself Victoria. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator

Talk to your mum she can hear you just think of her presence and the bond between you that can never ever go away no1 can take that from you xxxxx

Thank you ️

Hi moderator jenn, I would just like to say how impressed I was with the way you advised the young lady who sadly lost her mum at such a tough age for such an event.... I also wanted to thank you and the rest of the people involved with the running of this forum... I have found it very helpful and I was glad I decided to share my mums story.... it's a very good thing you all do, thanks again

Stay strong Victoria! its so hard I lost my mum only in November but you can make it through there is light through all the dark. Try and really think trough what your mum would be wanting for you, of course you are expected to grieve but your mum wouldnt want you to spiral into negativity 

Keep strong and ensure you keep talking about it - really helps!