Hi Raven.71,

I am so sorry you hear about your lovely Mum. The first few weeks and months are so unbelievably painful, it can be hard to catch your breath. It feels like you are suddenly aware of minutes, hours and days like never before. 
 

As you say there is also so much to sort out, it keeps your mind busy for a while to have a purpose. I'm glad to hear you have so many people around you, although I completely sympathise with the lonely feeling. All you want is your Mum.

I hope your work have been kind and will be understanding with the time off you will need. My boss was very kind and it helped. I actually found getting back to work helped distract me, although exactly like you I couldn't even imagine it. I also didn't care about work at all and felt it was all so meaningless in comparison with what I was going through (which is kind of true and totally normal).

It's brought back such sadness even remembering the first days when I lost my Mum. It's almost 7 months since I lost her and the raw unbearable pain has subsided a bit, it does get better I promise you.

You can rebuild and you can get through the next few months. Life will make sense again (I hope too)

Come onto this message board when you need to talk, everyone is so lovely. 
 

Sending love and strength to you

Katie

xxxx

Hello raven.71

So very sorry to read of the sad loss of your much loved mum.  She will always be in your heart never gone.  You did above and beyond for her she would want you to eventually be able to smile and go on.  Take one morning, one afternoon, one evening at a time. Such a sad time but New Year as well.  Look after you she would want that Im sure.  Big Hugs sent to you. xx

Thankyou Leigh, 

I am trying, It was just so quick 10 weeks ago she was ok. It's like they gave us good news then bad each step some more hope was taken away untill there was nothing left.

xx

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 24/06/2018, and I am still heartbroken. But, that said, it does become more bearable. I still cry a few times a week because I miss her so much.

Can you take time off of work?

Hello raven.71

I lost my lovely mum very suddenly in  2005 and miss her everyday,  My dad in 2014,  My brother and sister in law 2012 and my soul  mate my husband September 2016.  I wish I knew what to say or could say something to make you feel better.  I have to believe that they are somewhere special and we will see them again.  I have empathy with how you feel, steps forward and then taken away.  I have to beleive they are and my husband is somewhere so special waiting and I will see him and them again.  You just look after you you did everything you could for your mum.   Nothing can take her away from your heart or memory she will always live on with you and all who loved her.  Big hugs so sorry for your loss heartbreaking. ss

Thankyou so much for you kind words. I am so sorry to hear of your loses this must have been a devastating time for you.

Your words do give me hope even though I am struggling with each day I am trying to hold onto my faith that mum is with my dad, sister and her parents.

xxx

Thankyou for your message, I have been signed off work at present, I am not sure how this will affect my work but at present it's the least of my concerns.

I dont feel I can face it as I had decided on the 28th dec to leave to care for mum full time, I had already taken unpaid leave the week before xmas but mum passed much quicker then we ever expected.

I am sorry you have also suffered this loss, it's the hardest feeling ever.

xxx