Hey...I need the virtual hug. I lost my Dad last week after a four year battle with cancer. This forum has been a great help over the last six month...an experience I can only describe as horrific as a family member watching someone live and die with cancer. Can’t believe he has now gone. It’s been a very long week. Especially as the last weeks/months/years spending time with my dad went way too fast. One tough lesson I have learnt...no one instance of living/dying with cancer is the same...and we all experience cancer and grief differently; we all want answers throughout all stages of the process. Few answers are out there. The goalposts change on an almost daily process. What has helped me personally is getting a vague idea of what is on the horizon, honest indications as to what will happen. I’ve read of other people’s experieces and it has been a great support. When the answers aren’t there, other people’s experiences and emotions have been a great consolation. Unless you personally experience loss, you have no idea what it feels like. Nothing prepares you. Grief is not necessarily what one would expect and predict.  Kellyjane41...I know how you feel. We have been on different paths but are now at the same point; just 10 more minutes, priceless. At the same time, it’s not all negative. I’m very proud to have stood by my dad’s side throughout this illness, which in many ways brought us closer. 

My thoughts are with anyone effected by cancer. It’s really, really tough. Yes, stay strong.x