Mums death

My mum lost her battle to lung cancer on Monday 2nd December, she was only diagnosed 2 months and 28 days beforehand with a sore shoulder as her only main symptom, my mums deterioration was rapid which was soo painful to see, I am very much struggling with her loss, not only was she my mum but my go to person, we shared everything, my thoughts on life, people and we seen each other everyday, people tell me to focus on all our lovely memories but I was never ready for them to be memories, I suppose no one is ever ready, i know every reaction I feel is probably normal but my god it doesn't make it easier, it hurts sooo badly. I have lots of support but i just need my mum. 

  • That's exactly how I feel about my Dad right now. I saw him every day and he was my best mate. He was diagnosed August this yr and died 13 weeks after his diagnosis (2 weeks ago) It's heart breaking. Unbearable. The worst time of our lives but all we can do is keep on going. That's all we can do. Things don't make much sense right now but we'll be ok. So sorry for your loss, big hugs xo

  • I'm sorry for your loss I know how you feel. My mum died in August. She had a bad back. Then a chest infection. She collapsed and was told it was cancer. She died two days after they told her and us it was cancer. I think the shock had a huge impact in her going so quickly.   The pain is unbearable I miss her so much. I still can't believe she's gone. 

  • I lost my mum on 9th December after a two year battle with brain cancer. I too saw my mum on a daily basis, particularly after diagnosis, as my sister and I cared for her. We knew from the beginning that it was terminal  and the cancer changed her significantly in many ways but it doesnt make things any easier. I also feel lost and heartbroken without her, especially with her birthday coming up on the 23rd December and, of course, Christmas. Nothing and no one can replace your mum and even the good memories can feel overwhelming at the moment. People often don't know what to say in these circumstances, especially if they haven't experienced anything like this themselves. Allow yourself to feel, good or bad, do what feels right for you and don't put too much pressure on yourself. 

  • I am sooo sorry about ur mum, that is soo very sudden, such a quick loss for you. The pain is almost unbearable at times, I try soo hard to keep busy and I have 2 small children but it still creeps in, my mum was my go to, my ultimate best friend I ran everything by her, not having that hurts soo much. At the moment I'm trying to focus on being the mum my mum would want me to be and it's keeping me going. It will hurt like hell I would imagine on ur mums birthday, and I'm soo sorry ur going through that just before Christmas which will be hard enough.