My husband had NSCLC and passed away last month

 My lovely  husband Paul was diagnosed with inoperable NSCLC stage 3b on 6th december 2018 and what a shock he was only 56 yrs old, it followed a routine scan for his pulmonary fibrosis which he had had for 6 years, even though radical chemo/radiotherapy was risky oncologist decided to go ahead with 6.5 weeks treatment, he lost 3 stone in weight, Paul had chemo assessment on 29th dec and was kept in for a week with sepsis, things went downhill from there really, he was back in hospital in April with Pneumonia which was now compramising his breathing, sent home after a week on oxygen back in hospital in May with pneomonia again and was housebound when he came home after 2 weeks, relying on me for all his need's, he started to deteriorate around 22nd october took to his bed and never got up after that, his breathing was awful oxygen was on full 24/7 syringe driver went in on 29th october and he passed the next day at 12.45 not peacefully and i have been traumatised ever since, he would have been 57 tomorrow 30th november, so heavenly birthday wishes to my love, miss you so much, you rest in peace love you xxxxxx

  • Hello cruise22, 

    I am so sorry for your loss and wanted to send you our condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. It seems to have been such a traumatic experience for you I hope you will hear from others hear who have also recently lost a loved one in similar circumstances. 

    I hope you won't mind but I have slightly changed your title so that it is more easily noticeable by others who would also like to reach out. How sad that it would have been his birthday on 30th of November - your heavenly birthday wishes were very moving. 

    We have a page on our website on coping with grief which may be useful to you when you are ready and want to read more about the grieving process. I will now let some of our lovely members who have been in a similar place to you before come and share their own story with you. Sometimes it helps to talk to others who understand exactly what you are going through at the moment. 

    Warmest wishes during this difficult time, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator