My Mam

Hi, I’ve never really posted on something like this before but I thought I’d try because I don’t really know what else to do.

My mother died of cancer when I was a teenager, her 5 year anniversary will be next month. I’ve had severe mental health issues ever since she died and it’s only getting worse. I have no way of coping and the idea of her being gone completely and forever is something I can’t fathom. When I was younger I just continued with life because I couldn’t really think it through but now everything is hitting me full force and I feel so lonely. My dad recently remarried and his wife’s presence is like a constant reminder of my mother’s absence.

I don’t know if this can help but I just thought maybe talking to people who’s been through similar things might help.

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Ashblop although I'm very sorry about your mam.

    So many of our members know how difficult this journey with grief can be so I'm sure you'll get some support and advice from them soon but if you didn't have the chance to do so when you were younger, maybe now may be the time to look in to bereavement counselling? If you haven't done this before and feel it may help, then just click here to have a look at the link I've included to the Cruse bereavement website.

    You are not alone Ashblop.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator