So very sorry for your loss, it must be a huge shock for you and your family and of course you want her back, she’s your mum. The way to help get through the grief is with family support, all supporting each other. You are still a family of 5, although mum is not physically present she lives on in all of you. Sending a virtual hug x

So so sorry for you all ... it's not just the person it effects .. it's a tidal wave through families ... my niece lost the dad of her two little ones when he was just 27 ... everything changed ... and yes it was devistating .. but by taking one day at a time, is the way to go ...

Those two babies are now amazing adults .. but we've kept him with us .. brought him along our journey through life .. and I think your mum will watch over you all ..  cancer sucks ... and my heart goes out to you all ...  sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie xx

Hi 

I'm so sorry you lost your mum and completely understand you wanting her back. I feel exactly the same.

My mum had an operation to remove a blockage in her carotid artery in June. It was described as routine but major surgery and although it was only done under local anaesthetic my mum suffered a catastrophic brain hemorrhage in the recovery room and never survived.

The shock is unbelievable even nearly 4 months later, living without her even harder. She was expected home for lunch the following day.

The only way to get through this from my experience is to spend time with your family, allow yourself to grieve, cry as much as you want to and look after your body. Plenty of fresh air, walks and food little and often.

You will get through this even though it doesn't feel like it at the moment x