Hello sweetie - it's very sad news for your family & an awful lot to cope with I know. I wish there was a straightforward answer about preparing for loss but of course there isn't. When an aunt I was very fond of was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer it was a terrible shock, especially of course for her only child. All we did was to spend as much time with my aunt as we could & offer as much practical & emotional support as we could. From her diagnosis to her death was 3 months & what I found was that acceptance comes slowly & almost without being aware of it & I imagine this is what happens to most people.

In a way, despite the agony of knowing someone we love dearly will leave us, we have the opportunity to say all of the things we want to say. This isn't easy of course, but it does ease the pain to some extent & it's important that you do this if you are able to. You will be so thankful later if you do. This is part too of the process of coming to terms with things.

Taking things day by day is also important. Try not to think too far ahead - let the future take care of itself & don't try to anticipate what might happen. There's every chance things won't be as you expect or when you expect.

It's an awful road to travel on sweetie but somehow you will travel it. When my aunt died, it was, in a way, a relief (not an uncommon feeling for the breaved I do assure you), because the suffering is over. When my mum died a couple of years ago I came home from the nursing home ate a meal & slept better than I had in a long time. Again, I know many people have felt the same way. Of course I grieved for her & still miss her & think of her daily but I can smile at the same time.

I hope this has helped you at least a little bit. Do post again if it helps to talk & hear the experience of others. Take care of yourself too so that you can be strong for your mum. xx