Losing my mum at 21

I dont know how to even write about this. Its been 2 years and i still cannot talk about it without breaking in to tears. My mum passed away 2 years ago after fighting non-hodgkins lymphoma for 3years. She was diagnosed right after my dad passed away. 

i used to be such a strong and positive person. Now i just feel like nothing. Theres nothig to live for. I feel as if my life is meaningless. My friends are amazing they've been there for me throughout but i know they dont really know how it feels. None of them have been through anything like this, I am just reaching out to see if there is anyone going through similar situation. 

if theres anyone out there going through this please reply xx

 

  • Hi ,first I'd like to say am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 3 weeks ago, am 36 akd I looked after her for 15 years give or take. I know just how you feel and sadly words of comfort dont seem to work, at least not for me. It feels almost impossible to function amd go about daily life, knowing my mums not going to be there anymore. All we can do, is take it one day at a time and do our best to make our mums proud. I hope you can find peace with it all, am not completely sure I will myself x

  • Hi shalut and lexyone,

    I'm sorry to hear about your mums.its just an awful pain that wont go.

    My mum died 14 weeks ago and normal life just seems impossible.

    I have not returned to work since and have had my first counselling session today.

    I miss her so much it hurts and I just cannot comprehend that she is gone. I remember every bit of her body, every line on her face. I have cried every day since she died and cannot see an end to my grief. I am not surprised that you are still feeling this way too years down the line as I am fully expecting to be the same.

    My dad died 21 years ago. He was in remission for non Hodgkin's lymphoma and had a massive heart attack.he had been told that he had a 80 percent chance of the cancer returning and no treatment options left.

    I am only just able to talk and think about his death and am now dealing with mums.

    Life is very cruel and will never be the same for us.

    Thinking of you both x

     

  • I am currently going through a similar situation. I’m 21 and have cared for my mum. She’s at the end of life now and all her treatment has been stopped. Her mobility has got that bad that she will be going into a care home tonight to take care of all her needs. She is my whole life and it’s just me and her that live in my big house. I just constantly get so scared for the future and lately am struggling to cope. But some days are positive and some get a little too much. I would really be interested in talking to you and having a chat as my friends are always there for me but don’t really have much to say as they have never been through anything like it so sometimes I can feel alone. Feel free to leave a contact or contact me to have a chat as i really think it could be beneficial for both of us. 

    Sending my love ️

     

    Shannon x

  • Thankyou so much for taking time out to read and reply to me. You're right thats all we can do. 

    I will certainley keep you in my prayers x

     

  • Hi Shannon, thankyou for reading and replying to my post. Sorry to hear about your mum. I completley understand what you mean. I have sent you a friend request and we can definitely chat i agree we may be able to help each other x