I lost my mum just over a year ago, after five years and 3 different cancers. You never really expect them to leave so abruptly and it's awful, there's truly nothing like it. I still can't even begin to picture the rest of my life without my mum but I can say it does get easier. I know it's cliche and everyone says it but it really is true. Memories that might make you cry now will make you laugh a year from now and whilst this really doesn't help right now just know the future is bloody terrifying but it will become manageable.

As for feeling like you will never be the same, you probably won't be. You will be much stronger because overcoming something as devastating as losing your mum is not something that can be done easily, just remember as cheesy as it soumds, she will always be with you. That's not to say anything is going to make you feel better right now because as I know from experience, even things you love doing feel rubbish because there is something missing. I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with that, I'm hoping it will just come with time.

Thinking of you x

Hello Rosie,  I lost my mum 11th Sept which is two weeks ago. She had Ovarian cancer stage 4 for 2 and half years.  7th September we went out for dinner and were planning Christmas.  Wednesday morning my dad couldn’t wake her and called 999. She had a cardiac arrest when they moved her and she never woke up again.... to say we were shocked was an understatement. We still feel like we are going to wake up any minute.  We were expecting the dreaded slow decline and watch her die by inches, maybe in 6 months to a year into the future.  The way she went was such a shock.  My dad is beside himself wondering if he could have saved her.  I’m upset I never got to say goodbye and she died in an ambulance.  My daughters lost their second mother.... So I understand the “coming out of nowhere” that you spoke of.  It’s like a double whammy, you wonder if it’s better to know you are going to die or to die suddenly.  We got both and the negatives of both.  living with the horror of a terminal diagnosis and then living with the sudden loss that you were SO not expecting just yet.  Unfinished business, where are her funeral wishes, did she write anything down, did she write us the letters she said she would write, what were her wishes for her funeral... ugghhh. Horrible.

I wish I could offer you some comfort, but you are further down the path than me.  All I can say is that I know how you feel and I’m here for you if you need a friend. 

Laura x

Lost my wife 7 weeks ago only 62.  Such a massive shock bowel cancer not 1 doctor or consultants picked up on it went into hospital with in 2 weeks my wife passed away 

I’m so sorry for your loss. How are you coping on your own? My dad is 75 and devastated by the loss of my mum, his soulmate of 54 years

really hard to deal with don’t non which to turn my wife was robbed of her life such a balls up by NHS they are to blame