Haunted by my father’s last days

My darling father died three weeks ago  - at home in his own bed after an uncomfortable final month. I am glad he is no longer in pain but I am haunted by the memory of his final week. He was scared, uncomfortable and agitated. This is not how it should have been. He should have been calm, relaxed and allowed to drift off. I am overwhelmed by feelings of guilt, feeling that I have let him down. How will I ever come to terms with this?

 

 

  • Soon after my mother passed I had the same feelings . She’s been gone ten weeks now and I must say things are getting easier. I’ve spent time looking at photos and talking to people about her and those memories are starting to take over those last days. I went through all the should I have done this and that but you know what I bet you did your best as did I. Please talk to family and friends about how you are feeling or professionals if it would help. Please talk it out xxx