So very sorry to hear this. I completely understand how you feel as my Dad is very ill atm with Stage 4 Cancer  and seems to be wasting away in front of my eyes. He is trying to be strong but his body is letting him down. My Dad, like yours is the most special and trusting man in the world and I can’t get my head around the fact that I will soon be in the same position as you. I don’t know how you get over losing someone that means so much. I just hope that you took the time to tell him how much he meant to you in those last few months. This is what I am trying to do.  Sending you a big hug. I hope you can find some comfort that he is no longer in any pain. Best wishes to you. 

Thank you for your reply. I’m so sorry you are going through this too; it’s unbearable watching someon you love become so very frail. Thankfully I did tell him what a fantastic father he had been and had the opportunity to thank him. I’m so glad I did whilst he was more lucid as he changed very quickly.

whilst I am immensely grateful that he is no longer in pain, I’m angry that cancer has robbed my dad of his life in such a cruel way.

sending you strength at this time 

xx

I feel the same my dad died of bone cancer two months ago and now found out my mum as brest cancer  and liver cancer after been in remission for 6years I feel your pain and am deeply sorry for ur loss  

Thank you for replying. I’m sorry that you also lost your dad recently and the additional worry about your mum. I really hope that you have lots of support at this time. X

Hello sweetie - of course you are overwhelmed - how could you not be? Losing a parent is so very, very hard to do especially when they are as loved as much as you clearly loved your dad. Feeling angry too is quite normal & that will pass before too long I think. The grief takes longer & there aren't any shortcuts. All you can do is to take things hour by hour & day by day. Don't look too far ahead because things never turn out as you fear they might - so just step by step. Cry when you need to & scream into your pillow to let the anger out.

What I would say is that your lovely dad wanted to bring you into the world so you could live a life. Living a life includes the good & the very, very sad. You'll make your dad proud by doing that - living your life & being happy. Keep a journal of all the lovely memories you have of him. I don't know if you have children but if you do it's something you can share with them in the years to come.

Just remember sweetie to take things step by step each day & take care of yourself as your dad would want. x

Thank you for taking the time to comment on my post. Your words touched me and I will seek comfort in them xx

You are very welcome - do post again if you feel it helps. x