Saying goodbye

My little brother passed away on the 31st of July, at 23 years old, tomorrow I’m going to see his body at this funeral home, I’m the only one out of my close family that hasn’t been their yet, because I’ve been struggling so much to cope with it all, but I’ve convinced myself that the only way I’m going to be able to accept his passing and that he is gone is if I go and see him and say goodbye, has anyone else done this before? 

 

Im absolutely petrified but I know if I don’t do it then I’m going to regret it for the rest of my life. I know it won’t be nice, if anyone has any advice or tips of things to say that might help I would appreciate this, my brain is so foggy that I can’t think straight and keep forgetting the important things to say. 

 

I feel like I’m never going to be able to get over this..  

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I accompanied my husband when he saw his mum in the funeral parlour. It was the first time I had been in that situation and I also felt worried. Although incredibly upsetting there is a sense of peace. My husband took in a story that he treasured as a memory with his mum and read a section. You could write a letter and leave it with him. He appreciated time with me beside him and also alone time with his mum. Perhaps someone could accompany you in. xx