Hi,

i am so so sorry to hear your dad has passed. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart breaks for you, as you are so young and shouldn’t have to deal with this now. I’m 38 and struggling massively with it

i lost my mom last Sunday and feel my world crashed down. I can’t really offer any advice on how to cope as we all deal with grief differently. But posting on here has really helped me, as simply getting your thoughts and feelings out in the world does help. Knowing there are people on here who do understand what your going through and won’t judge or expect you to be fine is a huge relief.

i think I’m still in shock and can’t quite believe mom has gone and I’m sure you are feeling the same. You must do whatever feels right for you, if you want to scream and shout let it out.. bottling up all your emotions is not healthy. At first I didn’t talk about losing mom, as was trying to be strong for my dad and brother and talking about her really upset them. But it is something that I need to do for me. And although I wouldn’t say I am coping as I’m not really, just talking on here is helping

everyone keeps telling me with time it gets better in that it won’t hurt so much but right now that’s not a comfort, so i won’t say that to you. What I will say is im here anytime for you, if you want to chat or simply have someone listen

love Lucy 

Thankyou so much this dose help me knowing that other people have to cope to sorry all my messages are so short it's just I'm too sad at the moment to let my heart out xxx

You are more than welcome and please don’t apologise for short replies. If you only want to write 2 words that’s fine and 2000 words that’s fine too. There is no right or wrong way

i have started today writing to my mom in a book, it’s like I’m having a conversation with her as normal (well as normal as I can get). As at the moment that’s what I miss most talking to her. I’m not saying you should definitely do this but for me it’s helping a little 

love Lucy x

Hello Freya - this is terribly sad for you & I'm not surprised you feel you don't know how to cope. You have to try not to worry about coping - just let yourself feel how you feel. If you want to cry you must. If you need to be angry then just be angry. You can't be anything you think you should be.

I hope you know what I mean sweetie - no-one really knows how to cope when they are in shock even people as old as I am. (I'm old enough to be your grandma). All you can do is get through the next hour & then the next & then the next. Don't try to think ahead - just think how you feel now & do whatever you feel you need to do in that hour - nothing else - just in that hour. Somehow, the hours & the days will pass & as they do you will find that even without thinking about it you will be coping. 

Tell yourself you'll be ok & in time you will be. Keep posting here if it helps you - we understand how very sad this is for you. xx