Hi Sammy - it's terribly sad you have lost your dad & that you are finding it so difficult to cope. I do hope you realise that this happens to many people who are grieving for someone they love. It's really only a very few weeks since your dad passed away & I don't think you've had enough time yet to fully come to terms with it.

You say you miss your dad & I know that feeling. It's as though there is a hole that nothing can fill except the person you've lost. It's far too early yet for you not to miss him. I'm afraid it's only the passage of time that will allow you to think about him, and to miss him, without feeling so empty. But in time you will & you will think about him & be able to smile & remember him without pain. In the meantime, hard tho' it is, you need to accept that the pain is part of the grieving process & will become easier with time.

It's hard that your employers aren't more sympathetic & I think it's a good idea to see your GP & take a bit more time off work. You will know when you are ready to face work again & you will be able to manage. Work can be a good thing because it does occupy the mind & time passes more quickly but it's no good if it's making you more unhappy.

Trust that you will find a way to cope in due course but accept that you need to grieve in your own time & your own way. Do post again here if you need to talk. Plenty of people here understand what you are going through & will offer you lots of support.

All the best. xx

Thanks Purtfect.

I am going to see my doctor tomorrow and discuss how I’m feeling. 

Can’t carry on like this. Have tried to put a brave face on it and rush back to work thinking they would think badly of me if I took more time.

I’ve learnt that everyone grieves differently and I will either ask for reduced duties at work or take more time off to grieve. Been back at work for 4 weeks now and everyday is a struggle. The last week has just been the worst. Constant triggers and people wanting to talk about Dad over and over again!

You're welcome & I do think you've made the right decision. Look after yourself & keep us posted if you'd like to. Will think of you. x