Kidney cancer spread to bones

My husband was diagnosed in Feb this year with kidney cancer which had already spread to his bones, he had lesions in his femur, spine, ribs and hip, he has had his hip, femur,  partial shoulder and upper arm  replaced, I sit every day seeing him suffer, but feel like I betray him if I talk about to anyone, he is I’m denial how serious this all is but I want to know how long I have left with him but can’t ask the question with his consultant, this is not what I normally do but please I need someone to talk to who may have been or is going through anything similar

  • Hello Aylesbury71

    Welcome to the forum although I'm really sorry to read about the circumstances that have led you here. 

    I'm glad that you felt you were able to post on the forum. It is understandably a difficult time for you both and if we can support you through the coming weeks and months then I know that the community here will step up to do that. Please post whenever you feel the need to chat, ask a question or simply offload. 

    If you're able to find a quiet moment when you're husband is resting or otherwise occupied, it might be helpful for you to chat to one of our team of nurses about your situation. You can call them on 0808 800 4040 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm). 

    Sending our best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

  • Since posting this my husband had passed away, I feel so lost I just don’t know how to carry on with my life.
  • Hi Aylesbury71

     I'm so sorry to hear this , you must be devastated.  I hope you're getting lots of support . 

    I'm in a similar situation,  my husband has a huge tumour on his kidney which has spread to his lung and now they think it may be showing signs of spreading to his bones , it doesn't  see how serious it is either and that's very hard . 

    I hope you know you did your best for your husband and by seeking advice and comfort on this forum you were being a loving , caring wife not betraying him . Huge virtual hugs to you 

     Wendy xx