Unbelievable

Four weeks ago,  my truly amazing mum went into hospital knowing that the only way to slow the spread of the cancer was to have her arm amputated.   All went incredibly well and two weeks ago she was one handed texting me requesting a  chilled pinot grigio.  Two days later she wasn't feeling well.   And then last Sunday she passed.  It wasn't the cancer, it wasn't her failing kidney, it was a complete side swipe.  

My go to, my default phone call has always been my mum.  Could be to celebrate, could be to moan, or it could be just to hear her voice and feel grounded.

Who do I call?  Dad in bits, husband lost his mum only four months ago and bestie sister-in-law still raw.

 

  • Hello sweetie - you ask "who do I call". Us, here, that's who you call (or post to) & glad you have. It's terribly, terribly sad for you & your family. Although you can't call your mum - she's 'there' in your head. You know the kinds of things she'd say to you & her wisdom (because she knew you better than anyone) is still all there inside you. She'll always be with you, always.

    It will take time for you to come to terms with losing her & there aren't any quick ways of getting to that point. You have to take each day as it comes. It's like walking thro' an enormous pile of wet sand & it takes all of your strength but as each day passes the pile of sand shrinks & one day you will be able to walk on it not through it.

    Your mum brought you into the world so you could live a life & that includes the good & the very, very sad. Do your lovely mum proud by living the best way you know how & 'call' here anytime you feel you want to.

    Take care of yourself & your dad. xx