Hi Farah.

It’s also been three weeks since I lost my Mum to secondary breast cancer. She was 61. I also miss her so much and have been on the verge of tears all day. I’ve been having good days and bad days since she passed. Planning the funeral felt completely surreal. Now thats over everything is really sinking in. Some days I feel as though I am having an outer body experience and I’m not really there. I am going back to work tomorrow which should keep me busy in the day. I am just trying to take things day by day, when I think of the future without her it scares me. 

Sending love and strength

Katie

xxxxx

Hi there ..

The same happened to me .. my mum phoned one Monday morning about comming up mine the next day ... last thing mum said was "see ya tomorrow love " at 5.20 that afternoon she was gone suddenly from a heart attack ... 

But in my head I think they were right .. one tomorrow we will see them again ...  and you know the biggest thing I've learned is, don't try to be BRAVE... go with your feelings ... weather it's scream / cry / yell at cancer ... whatever .. get it out .. coz it's holding feelings in that causes even more pain ..

The saying that helped me through was .. "don't cry because you loose someone ... smile because you were blessed to have had them in your life "  ... (that's after you let feelings out) 

Remember you are half of her .. she made you ... she will live in your heart safely now ... take her with you through your journey through life ... talk about her often ... we still talk about my mum ... and 30 years on, her grandkids put her picture on their face book ... we just bring them with us ...

Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie  

Hi Katie, I’m sorry for your loss! I’m going back to work tomorrow as well, feeling a bit anxious at the moment but I thing this will do me good as I need to keep my mind busy! Me & my sister decided to join the gym, hopefully this will keeps us busy as well!We try to do things that mum liked to do , going for a coffee for example! Life it’s just hard without her, we knew she wasn’t well but at least she was here and we could speak to her, now it’s just a hole in our hearts!! Sending you lots of hugs and I hope all goes well for you tomorrow xx

Hi Chrissie, 

Thank you for your support and for your words! I just had a good cry and I’m feeling better, I just needed to take it out, sometimes I smile when I think of her other times I cry!! I miss talking to her...

Hugs xx

It's nearly been 8 months since I lost my mum also to lung cancer. I rang her the night before as she was seeing the consultant the next day. She never made that appointment. It has been a difficult year of firsts, all without mum. It is trying to find a new normal which does suck. I would love to say it gets easier, you find new ways of dealing with things, if you can dont keep things talk to those that care about you as you do need them even if you are sure you dont 

Emma xx