Hi juno, most of us try to help people with similar problems or just diagnosed and not sure what the future holds for them, your welcome to help if you'd like to,., hope you don't mind but have you and your father sorted out your own funerals. As soon as i found i had non curable C i sorted out mine and wife's funeral all paid, it's a lot cheaper now than in the future,. Its worth thinking about,. Try to keep busy find things to do, hope you work something out., keep yourself well best wishes.

Billy 

Hi there - how very sad for you & your dad. I had that same calm feeling after my mum passed away & I don't think it's uncommon. It doesn't sound weird at all. Please don't feel panicky just allow yourself to feel how you feel. We all grieve in different ways & every way is ok. 

I would say, if you feel the need to keep busy just do everyday stuff - hoover, mow the lawn, catch up little jobs you've been putting off. It's surprising tho' how quickly the time will pass. People will ring, letters/cards to read etc. etc.

My experience was that it took a little bit of time for the loss to sink in when my mum died a couple of years ago. But by the time it did I had somehow come to terms with it. Now I find I miss her more than I did immediately after she died. But it's not in any way an awful feeling, it's just that I miss her. Maybe this will be your experience. It might also be that you know somewhere inside that you are glad that your mum isn't suffering & that gives you a kind of peace. I hope so.

Please just grieve in your own way - whatever & however that is & try not to worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow is the time to worry about tomorrow not today.

All good wishes to you & your dad. x

So sorry for your loss. It's a terrible time. Funeral is on Thursday. Might become more real then?

Hello everyone,

i sympathise with you all: I posted for the first time last night as my nana, the lady who raised me had terminal bowel cancer. We were told about a week left 5 weeks ago, never known a lady quite as strong as her.

about 4 hours after I posted, she passed away whilst we were holding her hand. 

I also feel strangely calm. She’s my life, and I’ve just lost her, but I’m really together at the moment. Not sure why. I’m glad I’m not alone 

thoughts with you all xxxxx