I am so very sorry for your loss. I understand it must be overwhelming at the the moment just trying to function. I do hope you can cope during this devastating time, somehow you will do xx

Thank you hope things get better for x

Thank you x

Ang, I am just so so sorry that you are going through this. It’s just not fair to be honest - it’s one of the most, if not the most life shattering thing you will probably go through in your life. My mam passed away on the 23rd of May and I am not going to say I know what your going through, because know one knows how another person is feeling, but I have an idea of the pain you have. My mam was supposed to come home from hospital with me, to recover after her operation, but died the day before. I’m 4 weeks in now and I’m not gonna lie and say it gets easier - especially not this soon - but you start to come together a little - what I find hardest is concentrating- after that it’s eating, sleeping, talking - because my normal - the normal with my mother by my side is gone. Our mothers were strong fighters - and although it doesn’t feel like it now, they need us to be brave and live on for them.

Ang, do not iscolate yourself, or get sucked into a black hole. If you need help, seek it. I saw how my granny’s death and my dads death effected my mother initially so I made sure I saw a doctor straight away, I’ve went to a bereavement meeting with other people and I will start counseling 3 months after her death. Because I need to be strong to live on for her - a wise woman told me that everything I do and achieve in life will now be in honour of her. 

Im not gonna say keep your head up or anything like that but what I’ll say is breath. Deep breaths. Just keep living. 

Your mother is out of pain and with your dad - our parents are probably standing together right now as I write this, looking over both of us. 

You will be okay - x 

Thank you so much that really means a lot to me xx

I am here if you need to chat x 

I'm so sorry for your loss

When you feel ready there are some books you may find helpful

Motherless Daughters

Things I wish I knew before my mom died

Try to eat and talk about how you are feeling to whoever you feel comfortable with

I hope the memories of the good times you've had together and the love you have for each other will bring you some comfort

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mum on 19th May. It’s hurts so badly! It is really helpful joining this forum as chatting to people who know what I’m going through is so helpful. 

Trying to remember how lucky I have been to have such a lovely Mum as some people don’t have that and also that we loved each other so much that she will forever be in my heart. I am all I am because of her and she’ll never be gone while she lives on in me

Look after yourself and take care 

Lx

Thanks so much Laura, because believe it or not I am probably having one of my worst days yet - and your message helped realise I’m just not alone in this - even though I feel totally alone a lot of the time. I’m a bit of a control freak and with this we just can’t control it and I suppose that makes things even worse. I work in a high pressure job and I’m due to go back on Monday but to be honest I just don’t know if I’ll be able to at this rate due to the concentration and that. I dropped my partner to work this morning for 10 and while driving home I got quite upset and just parked and I’ve been sitting here since - watching X factor videos on YouTube trying to distract myself. Jesus what a *** situation this is. I’m sure your mother would be proud of you supporting others so thank you for that. Xx