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Mum just passed away 4 days ago

Chestnut22
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My mum passed away 4 days ago and at this moment in time I have no idea what I should do. She was the rock of our family and her death has devasted us all. 

Words are beyond the pain I feel right now and would never imagine anything could hurt this much. I feel lost and actually sick with grief. I have never been through this before so I am not sure what I should be doing. 

My god I miss her soo much

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    Hi there ...

    Well we only get one mum .. and want them with us forever .. you will go through lots of emotions .. and there's no wrong or right way to grieve .. it's just getting through the day, any way you can .. tears are a way of letting the pain out ... 

    You will carry her with you in your heart ... you are half of her .. she lives through you ... the first year is like a raw year .. it's a bit like waves go and come back and it feels overwhelming... but letting feelings out is far better then holding them in .. it's the price we pay for being blessed to have had them in our lives ..  Chrissie xx

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    Thank you for the kind words xxxx

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    chestnut . I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve just found out my mum has cancer . No point of chemo. And my dad passed 8 years ago of the dreaded disease too. 

    I hope you will get through it my lovely. Just remember you learnt everything through your dear mama. From wiping your own bottom all the way up to the way you deal with this loss. She will still be there . You just can’t see her. Look deep sweetie and she will be there guiding you ️

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    Hi there I'm so sorry for ur loss but I no how u feel I lost my two babies in 2003&2004 and den 13 months ago I lost my dad god I miss him but two weeks ago I lost my mom God I feel so lost and depressed and angery all the time ... I don't like expressin my feelings I don't no why but every time the go send me to a councillor I always say I'm grand wen they no I'm not I calm up can't talk or everything will come back in my head and I start thinking aload of crap and my family is no good for support at all

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    I am so sorry to hear that. I can not begin to think what you must be going through. I do hope you can start to express your feelings somehow it may help you. I don’t find it easy to talk about my feelings and have always put on a brave face that’s the way mum brought us up. . I do find talking about things on here easier knowing that others understand my grief and pain. Since mum went over the last couple of days I have felt very angry also with other family members to. I hope this is one of my emotions because I don’t want to feel angry. The only thing that seems to help me is training. I don’t have to think just walk or run it seems to clear my mind for a couple of hours. 

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