Hi love, losing your Mum is so painful and the grief washes over you in waves, life seems a struggle and no one else feels the loss like you.  This has also happened so quickly, a few weeks of horrible pain and then relief but a great loss.  My Mum died from dementia and the last year was vile but at least I had time to come to terms with it slowly, poor you, its happened so quickly.  All I can tell you is that it's your grief and you have to cope, but you're not alone, lots of us on this forum have lost loved ones, we support each other, listen. Help if we can and always reply.  The main problem is the way Mum died, so try to focus on the good times, get a lovely photo of her and put it in a pretty frame, talk to it, kiss her, tell her how sad you are, speak out loud so it's out of your head, this is what I did, it truly helps.  So post again if you need, we will always listen to you and you can say anything you need to.  Big hugs your way,  Carol x

Hi Audconn, very sorry to read you lost your mum, I haven't got any magic words that can take away your sadness, only to say, after losing my mum last September, I know about the good and bad moments. It's such a cruel disease, cancer ; and to watch someone you love so much suffer breaks you.

Like Dor06, I have photo's of mum and I speak out loud, today I said thank you for being the best mum in the world and I love you so much. One thing is certain, our mum's wouldn't want us to feel such overwhelming sadness, ....I'm sitting next to patio doors in the kitchen....a robin just flew and settled on the chair outside, that's my mum telling me "not to worry", she always said that, maybe our mum's are still with us, in spirit?

Such a short time has passed since you lost your mum, I'm so sorry for your loss and hope that the pain over time will ease and that you have family for support. The grief is just the hardest thing to go through, sounds silly thing to say but look after yourself, I didn't even want to eat, had no appetite, nothing seemed worth doing. It's just a day at a time or an hour at a time.

Sending warm wishes, thinking of you.

Take care

x

Hi 

I lost my Mum in Dec 2017 and am still struggling with loosing her. I miss her everyday as she was also my best friend. Now my Dad has lung Cancer and I feel it is just not fair. Its too soon after Mum and am struggling mentally to cope with everything

Laney

Hi love, it will always be a loss, good Mum's are greatly missed but time moves on, life takes hold and although you will miss and love her forever it does get better.  I'm so pleased you took my advice, remember all the good times, the horrible ones will fade in time.  Big hugs,  Carol 

Hi there I also lost my lovely Mum to Pancreatic Cancer and it was very quick. Mum was diagnosed on 2nd Jan 2018 and died on 31st Jan 2018.  It was truly heartbreaking to watch Mum fade away. She was a vibrant lady always put her red lipstick on each day and loved walking. It was Mums wish to die at home so me and my sister cared for Mum with help of Macmillan and Community Nurses. It has taken me over a year to be able to talk about Mum without tears. I have photos and memory book which I found comforting and I talk to her most days. For many months I agonised over those last weeks of her life and it takes time but I can now think about funny times we had with Mum. This site has helped alot and it was comforting to me in the very early days. Take care x