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07/05/2019

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This is the first time I have spoken about my Beautiful Brother since he passed so please excuse the limited information... My beautiful Brother learn't he had brain cancer August 2018 sion after we made appointments with the hospital had the necessary appointments next came the first horrible thing for him, We started with radio therapy to maybe slow down the tumors in the brain..  To see how they make the mask for radio therapy,  was very confronting, its a video that will never leave my mind, but when you think about things its about them I wanted to be there for my big Brother, so I grew and became the smile he needed and the cuddle without tears.. we finished the radio therapy and we found out my Brother was acceptable to immunotherapy so as a family we went forth with the treatment, he didn't  get as sick with this treatment so he was happier,,, skipping through the personal times we has as a family most good but we did have some very hard times, but when you think about it I would not have it any other way.

Just before Christmas 2018 we learnt the treatments had not worked and now the cancer was growing down through his body. All treatments had failed... That Christmas we had the best Christmas ever full of all our beautiful family he was so so happy. Time pasted and my Brothers health started decreasing, February 2019 my Brother said to me he just wanted to have Easter with my child and me.

He did just that we had a Beautiful Easter together, than on Tuesday 07.05.2019 my Beautiful Big Brother passed away.

His brain cancer had taken him. Its had and I miss him so so much what gets me through is knowing he is not in pain BUT, it hurts to know i will never cuddle him, have a joke with him or share a meal together.

Im not with my friends very much Im not into social very much at the moment, my work is going good, my studies are a little behind but my college is very understanding.

My question: Can anyone who has gone through the loss of a Brother give me any advise, on how to deal with the loss of my Brother and trying to have some sort of a normal life, I find myself going to work sometimes doing my studies and just staying on my own. Im normally a very happy person but at the moment That is not the case.

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    Hello Qldgirl, 

    A warm welcome to our forum and thank you very much for sharing your story.  We are so sorry to hear about your brother and wanted to pass on our sincere condolences to you and your family on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. You seem to have had such a strong bond with your brother I am sure he appreciated having you by his side and it is clear it was really special for him to spend Easter with you and your child. Try and cherish those memories and the affection you had for each other. 

    It is normal that you are feeling a bit down at the moment - all this is still very much raw and you need time to process everything. I am glad your college is very understanding as this will no doubt help you get back into your studies and catch up with everything. The most important thing for you now is to give yourself the time you need to grieve. Many on our forum will know exactly how you are feeling at the moment and I hope that they will come and share their own experience with you. We have some information on our website on Coping with Grief which contains some helpful tips to help you understand the complex emotions involved in the grieving process. 

    Do come back here anytime you need to talk or offload - sometimes it's easier to talk to others you may not know but who have had a similar experience and understand what you are going through at the moment. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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