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Just lost my mum to sinus-nasal tumour they spread to brain

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I lost my mum to cancer of the 4th May, her funeral was a week ago. Prior to her passing she only showed symptoms of confusion 6 weeks prior! Which was treated with antibiotics as a uti. It took a further visit to a&e, where they did a ct scan revealing a large brain tumour in her left frontal lobe, which apparently had spread and was a nasal-sinus tumour. 

I’m in shock and disbelief that this is happening. I’m struggling to carry on my normal life. Ive been off work for a month and like I said it was her funeral a week today but it still hasn’t sank in. 

I’m hoping someone that has been in a similar situation can help me process it...

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    Hi there ..

    Your brain needs time to process everything ... your probly still in shock ... those emotions are really normal ... just go with anything you feel ... get it out, then you can cope a little better  ...

    I didn't cry at my mum's funeral .. and we were so so close ... l couldnt understand it ... felt guilty and confused ...then 18 months later went to a distant uncle's funeral, and cryed all the way through ... in my head it was mum's funeral ... so don't worry about how you think you should feel, just go with how you do feel ... there's no right or wrong way to grieve ... it's just getting through one day at a time ...

    And once you give yourself permission to feel anything .. you can make a little more sense of things .. we may learn to live without them, but we never stop missing them ... it hurts so much because we were blessed to have had them in our lives ...  Chrissie xx

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    Thank you Chrissie X especially so for that last paragraph, I was blessed and need to think of it like that as thats comforting indeed. 

    Its just hard to fathom how someone could be so alive and ‘normal’ one week, to then 6wks later being gone...

    really appreciate you reaching out and responding xxx 

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