Hi. Thanks for sharing how things are 2.5 years later. It's such a shock to lose someone we love, and none of us are really ever prepared for us. Part of the scary thing is not knowing how we will get through it. If we will just fall apart. Lot's of people wonder "how long it will take" etc. So having posts like these are so helpful!

What I've learned one year on, is that the pain doesn't go away. It's compartmentalized. Like a little box of sorrow sitting inside my head. If I open it, the pain is right there. I peek inside it often, and get choked up.

I think there will always be triggers that can set us off at any time. Indeed, as you have just lost your father in law, it brought back the feelings.

My good friend just lost her dad, and I had to attend the funeral on the anniversary of my own mothers passing. It's really hard.

I agree though, that in some ways it's a bit easier as time goes on. We gain a little bit more control over our emotions I think.

All the best.