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My lovely wee dad sadly passed away on 16 April from brain cancer. He was diagnosed December so we had 5 months with him. Just completely lost without him. Myself and my sister stayed with him in hospital the last three days of his life every time i close my eyes see him passing away 

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    Hi there...and welcome ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... it's one of the hardest things we will ever go through in life ... but I'm so pleased you got to be with him in those last days ...

    But you know, cancer wants to replace all those memories of your dad, with the very end ones .. but please remember your dad was far more then cancer ... he was the dad that held you as a baby .. the dad that taught you to walk .. take you to school ... watch you grow into a man ... that's the memories he would want you to think when you think of him ..

    I know because that's how id want to be remembered ... we are so much more then cancer ... it is not who we are ... we are the good memories... when you see those last memories... close your eyes and think of the best memory of dad you can, relive it slowly .. every word, and how you felt at that time ... over and over till the good memory replaces the sad one ... then cancer doesn't win ... 

    It will take a long time to grieve .. that's normal ... we have to go through that ... take a day at a time ..

    Sending you a vertual hug.. Chrissie x

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    I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. As we both know, there's no one like a father. Because it's still so soon after his passing, you're still having those negative images when you close your eyes however the fact that you were there with and for him is bittersweet. Think about it as his soul leaving his body to go be with our Lord. He is no longer in his cancer-ridden body. He is whole and new again and celebrating his eternal life with our heavenly father and savior. Pray for strength and know that dad will continue to be your guardian angel watching over you, your sister and the rest of your family. Just wait and see how many doors will open for you as dad will be working closely with God! Your dad will still be with you just in a different form. He will never leave you.

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