Lost my mum just a week of diagnosis

Hi

Not sure really where to begin  my mum died of cancer  on the 9th april 2019 within just a week of diagnosis she was only 69 i feel totally lost and cant even understand how quick she was taking fron us i just feel so numb and wish i just had more time with her the doctors had told us the cancer in her pancreas had spread to her liver and both lungs and there was nothing they could do i was by her side for the whole week watching her pass i have a big family who are all there but i feel so alone and struggling to grieve for her i tbought i would cry more to get the pajn out but i cant even do that her death is so raw and miss her everyday just a week seems so unfair 

  • Hi mike 

    I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your mum and how quickly it happened. 

    I want to reassure you that the way you’re feeling is normal. I lost my nan (who was as good as a mum to me - my queen) over Easter and I am numb. I always thought when I lost her I would be in pieces. And whilst I miss her every day, my body has gone into auto pilot to protect myself from the pain I think. Sometimes I feel guilty I’m not in tears 24/7. I’m just waiting for it to set in.

    Please know you’re not alone.

  • Hi

    Thank you for the message and sorry to hear the loss of your nan , its such a strange feelibg at the moment i seem to want to feel upset but i cant which then makes me angry if that makes sense 

    I dont know where to turn to be honest my friends ask me to go out with them but dont feel like socialising or really talking to anyone just seems im kn a world of my own

    Mike 

  • I lost my mum on the 7th of April..2 days before yours..after diagnosis on 28th February.Most days I feel like I’ve been shot..the feeling is so hard to understand for anyone who hasn’t had the agony of dealing with it...I think it’s something that you have to try to accept and come to terms with which is a rough process with no particular time to it ...I can’t imagine a time when it feels better...I guess having people around you who love you helps ...and trying to keep busy and lose some of the anger.,which I what I’m trying to work on ..best wishes x

  • So sorry for your loss x i know what you mean its so hard some days i feel blessed with the time i had with mum but next day so angry for her being taking within a week

    I hope someday ill understanding 

    Mike x

  • Thankyou, I hope things get a little clearer and improve for us ...it really  shakes your life up especially if you’re close to someone  ...I hope one day I’ll think of the better times again instead of the most awful which is obviously the most recent and fresh ..

  • So true life can deal some hard blows and i miss my mum so much x