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Losing my mum

Lmcfly
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So almost a year ago, we had the awful news my mum had cancer, breast cancer that had spread to her spine and bones. She passed away in July.... and it hurts it really really hurts  

She was 61 it's so unfair that shes left me, my sister and our kids. 

I've been taking meds for anxiety since September, I've never been like this before in my life  

I'm so angry, I cant remember our last conversation as she was out of it a lot of the time towards the end. 

Everything reminds me of her, songs TV programmes, the weather everything and then I get this rush of emotion come over me. I just want my mum xxx

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    Hi

    I lost my mum November 2018 from this exact thing breast cancer that spread to her spine then elsewhere, she was 54, please tell me this gets easier be brutally honest, the end was so tough, I don’t no what you went through but can only imagine it was as hard as our time, I’ve had 0 support got through this by myself even with people around me the thing that gets me is when I hear my dad playing mums favourite music it makes me angry at him but want to break down at the same time

     

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    Hi Lmcfly,

    It does hurt, literally you feel your heart aches, my mum passed away last September and I miss her so much. My mum was 82 but whatever the age, doesn't matter.

    I didn't take the prescribed meds but took lavender pills, supposed to have same effect.I initially also suffered from claustrophobia but that has eased.

    All I can say is take a day at a time, I go to mum's grave regularly and that helps me a little. It isn't easy but we don't have a choice, you have to adapt to a new 'normal'; no timescales, we're all different. I do believe though, that in time it will get easier and although I still get upset, I can talk about mum now without breaking down....well most of the time.

    I am so sorry you lost your mum, your love for her comes through in your post. I feel the same when you say I just want my mum....it is so hard. 

    Perhaps go back to your Dr and ask about possibly counselling, I am having some,early days but I think it's helping.

    Take care

    x

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