Sorry to hear I lost my mum to cancer  in August 2018 she was only 60 yrs old there will be plenty of people to help you stick close to your friends I hate cancer with a passion

Hi nb139, 

I know how you feel. When I was 15  I came home one day after school to be told that my mum had hours maybe days  to live due to stage four inflamtory breast cancer. When I saw my mum she was unconcious  and breathing shallowly, I wasnt able to say goodbye while she was concious which was hard but also it made it eaiser to say what I needed without the back and fourth of crying. I was scared of being known as the girl whose mum died but the thing is, you will be known as the girl whos mum died for a few weeks. Then people move on. People move on and that is the hard part beause you ARE the girl whose mum died and you will need to people to think of you as that, so that you get the support you need. The thing is, is that when your mum dies you will not want any attention. You will want to be left alone, no mention of it. After a few weeks or months you will want to, and need to talk about it but everyone else will have moved on, your friends and peers thats is. You won care about what people think about you beacuse you will realise that what has happened to you is the only thing that matters. you are a little girl who has lost her mum and anyones judgement or thoughts can *** off. You are the only thing that should matter to you. You are going through something no 16  year old should have to go through, you are the bravest 16 year old you should know.  You are the girl whos mum has died and you should be proud that your still living, you should be proud that you can wake up and go to school, you are brave because you have to be. You will always feel like the girls who is 16 and whos mum has died, even when you are 40. You will always feel scared and vaunerable and young, but you are braver than many and that is important. Things will be *** for years, but they will be *** less freuqently,  and you will find comfort in your forced bravery. YOU ARE STRONG AND BRAVE BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO BE. YOU ARE THE GIRL WHO'S MUM HAS DIED AT 16. BUT YOU ARE INCREDIBLE AND STRONG. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE STRONG BEACUSE OF THIS. P.s message me if you need any advice, or just to talk, im still lost in this grief and my mum died 6 years ago, but its important us motherless daughters stick together. 

Hi nb

my son’s friend lost his mum at 14, it was sudden and he didn’t get the chance to say goodbye. His whole school and town rallied round and surrounded him with love and support. A collection allowed him a couple of weeks holiday abroad and his school peers made sure he was never alone. 

He’s 17 now and living it up in Thailand. 

He may have been know as the boy that lost his mum but not in a bad way, everyone wanted to help. You may be surprised by the reactions of people when they find out and I hope you and you family are shown the same compassion and love as my son’s friend.

sending you a hug x