Hi Butterfly

I noticed that you've not had a reply and didn't want to pass by without saying a few words.   I'm so sorry that you've lost your lovely father in law. I'm sure he knew how loved he was.  It's now over 3 years since I lost my husband, just 10 weeks after his diagnosis of lung cancer. He was just 54.  Whether our loved ones have a long battle against cancer or a short one noting prepares us for the shock of loosing them.

I notice that you've got 2 young children. When my husband was diagnosed he was very afraid that our 14 month old grandaughter would forget him. We've made it our business not to allow that to happen.  There are pictures of him where she can see them and scrap books that she can look at and we talk about him often.  Perhaps your husband would like to help choose some pictures for the children for their own scrap books? This would be helpful to them and also to him.   Take every day very slowly and be aware that grief is a slow process.  Our daughter is 36 and even now has days when her grief for her dad is quite raw but mostly she's ok, as am I. 

Netty