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Hey, I am 15 and my Dad passed away when I was 13. He died of septicaemia, not cancer but hopefully that doesn’t matter too much.

He died very suddenly, leaving only me and my mum together. I am so proud of her because there was so much she had to do that I wasn’t able to help with. Anyway, generally I am a happy person and although I was devastated of the loss of my Dad, we were very close and I had a great relationship with him, I have coped well and managed to keep up with school work. However my GCSE’s are in a few months and I am worried that I won’t do well and disappoint him.

I do have a lot of great friends and a great boyfriend who are all there for me but I want to talk to someone who gets it, the one I usually talk to when I’m feeling sad is my dog, I don’t know what I would do if it wasn’t for her .

Thanks, Skye

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    Hi there Skye ...

    Well I can only talk for me, but got a feeling your dad may feel like this too ..

    I have two sons, and 7 grand kids ... and if this cancer or any thing else take me, I'd be proud of every one of them .. not for exam results ... not for wealth. . No material things ... I'd be proud of every kindness they show others ... the love they show each other .. the smiles and laughter ... I'd just be proud they are part of me ...

    I'm pretty sure your dad's looking down on you... and saying "that's my girl" and proud of this thread you put on here .. proud of you only being so young, yet sounding so mature ... proud in you every day, for things you don't even realise ... so do your best and weather you pass or fail ... he'll be proud you did try .. and there's always anther chance to take them ... 

    I'm proud of you too ... comming on here and sharing ... always here if you need a chat ...

    Sending you a nanny hug ...  Chrissie xx

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    Hello Skye_p.  I personally would be happy to stretch a point for you because if  you talk to other teenagers here (who have lost their parents to cancer) you may be helping them also.  You might also like to look up a charity called Winstons Wish online which supports teenagers who have lost a family member; you will  be able to chat to others in your age group who have lost a parent also.  You can also look up people here.  If you click on the blue banner above your post then type the words "teenager lost parent" (or something similar) in the box which opens up you will find others who will understand what you are feeling.  Hope this  helps.  Best wishes.  Annie

    PS I have long conversations with my dog too.

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    I'm also 15 and about to do my GCSEs too. My mum died 3 months ago and I am in the exact same boat as you, all I want is to make her proud, but, I'm sure that both my mum and your dad will be proud of us for working so resiliently after their passing. Also, Chrissie is SO right too, I'm here if you ever need to message me 

    Lots of Love, 

    Lily xxxx

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    Hi there Lily...

    Well it never fails to amaze me, just how wonderfull you young ones are ... I'm in awe of you all ... it makes me feel so humble ... if all young ones were like you, it would be a much kinder world ...

    I've chatted to a few young ones from here ... and if ever you want to chat about anything, just send me a private message request ... my young niece lost a parent when a young teen .. and I've learned a lot from her, how it effects young ones ... 

    Bless ya ... there must be a lot of proud mum and dad's up there ... sending you a big nanny hug ...

    Chrissie

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