Losing mum at Christmas

Hi, im very young .I’ve just lost my mum to many different cancers.I believed she died too young as she died at 56.She was an amazing person loved by everybody.She had a battle with cancer for 5 years.She was given only 2 years to live but with the amazing NHS and charities out there she was able to live longer. It is very hard at this time of year when celebrations are taking place and you are so upset.But I feel like life has to go on even without you’re loved ones as they will be watching you very proudly.I feel like this will help make who you are .It will make you strong as this is a very sad time.Now I know she isn’t in any pain and she’s watching me in happiness wanting me to do well in life.I would like to hear how people cope with grief.Also what support is out there.

x

  • So sorry to hear you have lost your mum too :( 

    I lost my mum in August 2017. I was 29 when we lost her. My mum was a big believer in that always someone/somebody is always worse off than you. When ever she wasn't very well, she still put others first. I try to tell myself, what would mum do/say, and I find when I have my down moments I pick myself back up by remembering what she was like and the strength she had in life. This has been our 2nd Xmas without her and it has been very difficult.  This Xmas has also been my baby girls 1st Xmas.  So I have missed mum so much. My other daughter is 6 years old. She had a lovely day opening her presents. We made it a memorable day for her. Just like my mum and dad did for us. 

    I allow my tears to come when they need to and I talk to family and friends when I feel it's getting too much.

    Sending you lots of love x 

  • I’m sorry to hear about the passing of your mum .Cancer is evil but I’m a believer that it makes us more strong.It’s going to be hard trying to live your life without your love ones , trying to make it in the slightest a bit normal especially right now.Also it’s okay sometimes to cry and let out how you’re feeling as it’s hard.

    X