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my mum was digonised with cancer when i was around 10/11 in her boob and se got though it all she did her cemo and she came back as he rold self again

but unfortantly it came and and this time she coudnt do no more fighting she gave up. she passed away 2 yeras ago now im 16 i just dont know what to do with my life no more as everything i have ever wanted has just gone! who is goung to see me grow up? come to my wedding and prom? its the worst feeling in the world  knowing your so young and you got to cope with the lost of your mum every single day waking up knowing she is not around to cook for you or  nothing. i lose sleep i rarely eat and i have flash backs and sweat really bad when im having these flash backs :(

has anyone gotsome tips to keep it of my mind (of course i dont want to conpleately get rid of her) is there anything i can do?

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    Hello libby2468,

    I am so sorry to hear you have been feeling like this since losing your mum 2 years ago. You were really young when this all happened and it is completely understandable you are feeling this way. I do hope you will meet others here who have also lost a parent to cancer at such a young age they will know exactly how you feel and it might help to support one another here on this forum and to feel that you are not alone going through all this.

    We have some information on our website on the grieving process which might be useful to you. It describes the different stages of the grieving process. It does sound though that you might need to talk to a professional to help you feel better. I would suggest you make an appointment to see our GP and they might suggest you get some grief counselling which may really help you process everything that has happened.

    I will now let our other members give you some tips based on their own personal experience.

    Let us know how things go for you. We are all here whenever you need to chat.

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hello libby2468.  To lose your mum at any time is painful but to lose her at such an early age is awful.  I just wanted to suggest you might like to look at a website called Grief Encounter and another called Winston's Wish, both of which support young people who have lost a loved one.  You may like to talk with others in the same situation who will understand what you are feeling.  Hope this might helkp.  Best wishes to you.  Annie

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