Can’t live without my Mum

I lost my Mum nearly 3 weeks ago and had her funeral yesterday where I brought her home to be buried with my Nan and Granddad. It’s not any easier in fact I think I’m getting worse. I feel like I have nothing to live for now. She was my best friend and I talked to her 3 times a day when I was away working and spent so much time with her when I wasn’t. I feel the same about things she will never get to enjoy anymore, I don’t want to enjoy them either. I felt mistakes were made and she could have been around longer. I don’t know if I want to carry on, I feel like there no’s point. People say but she would want you to do this and that but they have no idea of the pain I’m in. I have no partner or children just a career that I don’t care about anymore. I don’t know what to do.

  • Hi yes I have four sisters and we are all beyond heartbroken. We only used to see each other every Friday afternoon when we'd all gather at my Mum's for tea and a chat. Mum became ill at the beginning of the year with mental issues and she had heart failure. She was 88 years old and we used to take it in turns to stay with her overnight. She ended up going into hospital after a fall were they discovered she had pneumonia and she caught COVID. I think it was made worse due to the fact that we weren't able to see her for the 5 weeks she was there until the hospital rang us to say she had deteriorated. She passed away on my birthday. I feel like my life has changed forever and the grief is unbearable

  • That is awful I'm sorry. I'm alone and my Mum was only 70. The grief is totally unbearable. I don't know how much help I can be but I will listen to you and any feelings you have are all normal please know that. 

  • Thank you that's really kind but I don't think people who haven't lost anyone fully understand do they!! Hope you're doing ok xxx

  • They really don't unfortunately we are part of a club no one wants to be a part of. 

  • I'm so sorry to hear this. My mam has stage 4 cancer and I feel robbed. I never want to be without her and feel physically sick at the thought of it. I think it's extremely unfair to have to spend time on earth without the person who brought you into it. I often think that when she goes I could happily go to, just to be close to her. It terrifies me to think I will ever be without her, but I know I'm blessed to have such an amazing mam. I'm sure you are too. I hope you found the strength to pull through, I'm sure your mam would be proud xxxxxxx

  • I've read alot of your posts and they are so similiar to the way I feel, I lost my mom 3 months ago and really wish I could just somehow leave and join her.  I really have no family, lost my sister and father several years before, my mother was part of me, we spoke every day sometimes several times. Other than a few physical activities, I feel no motivation to do much of anything else.  I'm retired at 61, my motivation to work again is very low.  Agony, devastation, sorrow, loneliness, punishment are all feelings of mine. I go one day at a time, but it would be easier if days were half as long.  Therapy and support groups only help temporarily. I hope all of us will someday find some sort of relief

  • I am so so so sorry for your loss. I am going through the same thing. I feel totally broken. 

  • does anyone know if MW101010 is OK?

  • I feel exactly the same

    its been nearly 2 years since my mum suddenly died in 24 and never thought I'd be without her this young and I just feel that life is completely pointless. I long to be with her so badly I just count down the days till I can be with her again

  • I'm so sorry, I'm older and it's been 2 1/2 years now and I still feel the same. I hope you can find some peace and something to live for. This past year hasn't helped either. Reach out any time you need to talk