I lost my lovely Mum on 8 November and we had her funeral yesterday. My grief today is just so painful. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over losing her. I miss her so much it physically hurts. I just don't know how to carry on, everything has changed

I lost my lovely Mum on 8 November and we had her funeral yesterday. My grief today is just so painful. I don't know how I'm ever going to get over losing her. I miss her so much it physically hurts. I just don't know how to carry on, everything has changed

Hi Debbie,

I'm so sorry for your loss, I know your pain all too well. It's been 2 years and almost 2 months since I lost my Mum and I'm still struggling with grief. I cry every day and miss her so much. I really hope you cope better than me. Do you have family you can turn to for some comfort? If you need to talk I'm here. Xo

Hi yes I have four sisters and we are all beyond heartbroken. We only used to see each other every Friday afternoon when we'd all gather at my Mum's for tea and a chat. Mum became ill at the beginning of the year with mental issues and she had heart failure. She was 88 years old and we used to take it in turns to stay with her overnight. She ended up going into hospital after a fall were they discovered she had pneumonia and she caught COVID. I think it was made worse due to the fact that we weren't able to see her for the 5 weeks she was there until the hospital rang us to say she had deteriorated. She passed away on my birthday. I feel like my life has changed forever and the grief is unbearable

That is awful I'm sorry. I'm alone and my Mum was only 70. The grief is totally unbearable. I don't know how much help I can be but I will listen to you and any feelings you have are all normal please know that. 

Thank you that's really kind but I don't think people who haven't lost anyone fully understand do they!! Hope you're doing ok xxx

They really don't unfortunately we are part of a club no one wants to be a part of. 

I've read alot of your posts and they are so similiar to the way I feel, I lost my mom 3 months ago and really wish I could just somehow leave and join her.  I really have no family, lost my sister and father several years before, my mother was part of me, we spoke every day sometimes several times. Other than a few physical activities, I feel no motivation to do much of anything else.  I'm retired at 61, my motivation to work again is very low.  Agony, devastation, sorrow, loneliness, punishment are all feelings of mine. I go one day at a time, but it would be easier if days were half as long.  Therapy and support groups only help temporarily. I hope all of us will someday find some sort of relief