Think you're doing ok

Just spoke to Dad and he said he was looking through one of mum diaries, not a personal diary as such, one she used to put everydays things, she loved to cook, it was one of our weekly Sunday visits and she'd written down what we had for tea, I just broke down. Mum passed away on 26th September and yesterday was the first day I hadn't cried. I feel so mad with myself as my dad is broken and now I have upset him by crying. 

I was looking at some photos of Christmas day, few years ago and lovely photo of mum, I must have called her, she turned  and looked right into the camera, she looks beautiful and happy. I want to talk about my mum without breaking down.I miss her so much, just can't get my head around the fact that I can't see her anymore.I think my husband is getting tired of me talking about it.

  • 're your doing ok I lost .my wife of 46 yearsin September to non hodgkins lymphoma an hour and a half after a biopsy and being told she could go home despite me noting her stats were not good after the biopsy I got her home and she wanted to go to bed for a ly down and asked me to see to our 2disabled daughters need tea 12minutes later I went to checkon her and she was sprawled across the bed dead without any of the family around her we all all devastated at her loss when only 2days after going out to celebrate my 65th birthday I was arranging her funeral she was full of life and was looking forward to receiving her chemo treatment which was planned then I find out that my eldest daughter was pregnant and had not told her mam I will never forgive the radiologist who did the biopsybroke the ward rules and let her home she did not die from non hodgkins lymphoma as th post mortem showed but died from a bleed asfter the op I just have to prove it to the hospital panel she is so sadly missed by her 6children and7 grandchildren and my only lover for47 years

  • Hi, I am so very sorry for your loss. There are no words to take away the devastation that you, your daughters and family must be feeling. My mum passed away also in September from Myleofibrosis;  blood transfusions/medication had become less and less effective and a shock at how quickly mum deteriorated in the end.

    My poor dad is broken and we're all rallying around him, similar to yourself, a long marriage, would have been 60 years in December. I am so worried about him, he doesn't always tell me how he is coping or feeling as doesn't want to upset me, but as his daughter, I want to know. 

    You mentioned that your daughters are disabled, hope you have some support from others.

    I'm afraid I am not so good at giving any advice, except taking a day at a time and perhaps seeking help from bereavement councillor if you feel it would help. Hope others will also offer support via this forum.

    Sending my condolences to you at this very difficult time.