loosing mam

My mother was diagnosed with colon cancer with mets to her lungs. She only lasted for 2 months after the diagnosis.  Its 18months since her passing and im struggling with life without her. I think of her every day all day. I feel like when she passed my life ended. We were incredibly close and were together doing things every day and I cry for her most nights.i sleep with the nightdress she last wore every night. Im 50 and think that people think my grief is abnormal and I dont think they truly understand my pain. I don't know what to do.  I just need her so badly . I feel this has been the most traumatic thing I have ever been through.  Is this normal.  

  • Hi Sue,

    So sorry for your loss, people on this forum will say you are most definitely not abnormal, From reading posts, we are all on the same path, one not chosen, and whatever you feel is normal, no right or wrong way with grief. I hug mums cardigan, one she wore on her last days. You do feel like your world has ended and life ahead seems unbearable without them. For me, being on this forum has helped together with family and friends, others say that counselling from professionals/ Cruz helps.

    Do keep posting, I hope you find some comfort and understanding from the posts on here.

    Take care

    xx

  • Hi Sue. 

    I'm 55 and I feel EXACTLY the same. . My mum was my best friend. . Hero. . And constant. . I have to be on this earth for my children and grandson yet I don't know how I'm going to get through this.  I honestly know ill never recover. . I don't think it's as abnormal as I thought it was. . It's agony x

  • Hello there......

    ..my goodness.....all of the posts above are true....i have been going through exactly the same things...i have trouble sleeping...moods of depresion and anxiety...unable to see an end to it all....it is painful ..it is agony...my relationship with my mum could have been better.....so its taken me a while to realise how painful the separation can be.....theres no other word for it

    but many thanks to everyone sharing here ...its comforting to know that some of us are all in the same boat..

    sinceres

    jim

  • My heart goes out to everyone who is dealing with the loss of a loved one. It’s nearly a month since I lost my beloved mum to bowel cancer.The grief is horrendous. Mum and me were so close too, we were best friends, liked the same programmes and had the same sense of humour. Mum was my life and I feel so lost/empty without her. If anyone wants to keep in touch, please feel free, as we all understand what we are going through and the journey we are all on x.