Coping with grief

I’ve just lost my mum to cancer. She was still waiting for the correct diagnosis but thought to have been ovarian. She had the biopsy Monday and was dead exactly a week later. Can’t believe how quickly this has occurred and trying to process it can’t deal with this shock and sadness 

  • This happened to me too, my mum was about to get the biopsy results just after she died. I know how you feel, but everyone copes with greif differently. I keep myself busy but still remember her, I wear her jewellery while I'm out wuth friends or other family. Maybe make a scrapbook, but prepare yourself for the funeral as it will probably get worse before it gets better. Keep in mind that she went fo a reason, and none of us are powerful enough to stop a loved one from passing away. Celebrate her life and try to take on her good qualities, my mum was so caring,so I make sure I help people more. I'm not that religious, but once you get over the overwhelming sadness you start to feel their presence. Feel free to message me if you need to talk as we're both in the same boat. 

    I hope you feel better soon,

    Lily xx

  • Not sure what to say.My goodness how life can be so cruel.I feel lucky as from my mums 1st diagnoses we were told 12 months and mum fought for 14 months.Although your mums was sudden and awful and a shock I had to watch my mum slowly fade away.Her mind was not her own and her character faded to an existence,not a quality of life at all.Even though she was here I new she was already gone.That wasn't my mum at all.I didn't cry properly until 2 days after she had gone then it hit me.It does come in waves.You try and carry on with life then realise life is having mum there and life will never be the same again.I will try and honour my mums inspiration and keep lighting a candle daily for her and remember her smiles and positivity on all that was thrown at her.Even with cancer she still smiled.Her smiles beat cancer and I have the picture's to prove that.Up yours cancer !! Xx

  • My Mum past a week after her diagnosis. We knew she wasn't right but we had a week and a half with her before she died. I know my mum died on her terms at home and happy. It felt too quick and I had so much to say to her. Like others I have written letters to my mum. She is always with me. She never wanted to suffer and I know she is not. I am hurting but I know she wont be. Christmas was her time of the year and my Dad is worrying already. This year will be very difficult. All you can is take one day at a time and remember your mum happy xx