Hiya missy, 

im really sorry to hear about your ma, our parents are such important people in our lives and losing them is just so heartbreaking. It’s lovely that you got to spend so much time with her and that you planned your wedding together. Anniversaries are always hard and it’s completely understandable that you are experiencing these dreams and feelings, also the flashbacks aren’t uncommon. Maybe it could be worth a trip to your GP, have a chat with them, tell them how you feel and the dreams and flashbacks you are experiencing. They could give you something to help with them if you feel you need it or just have some advice on coping with them but considering the time these have come about maybe just keeping loved ones close and talking about her, sharing memories, getting through it together. What we do is have a little get together on the day, we have dinner together and spend the day/evening reminiscing about them. It helps also as a positive way of thinking but with them in mind, what they would like to do that night, eat, talk about. It’s always lovely, sad at times but lovely. We are always here if you need us, a chat, advice, anything. 

Bex x 

Hi Bex

thank you for your lovely reply! I have taken the day off work to spend with my dad x

Hi there I was 22 when I lost my mum,I now 42 .I miss her so much aswell.she missed my wedding and my child being born.i dream of her lots .some good some bad,do anything to have her back .here to chat as I was your age at time.and it was,hard xxx 

That’s lovely, I really do think it’s a wonderful idea, having each other and supporting one another along with a lovely day spending time together is a perfect way to remember and cherish your mum. I don’t know if you believe in these things but i do think when we lose someone, they’re not gone, they’re always with us.  That’s ok, if you ever need a chat we’re here x