I just wanted to drop by and say that many here will understand how you feel having also lost their mum to cancer a long time ago and finding it very difficult still. We have a page on our site on Coping with Grief which you can read here and if you feel you are struggling a lot, it might be worth having a chat with your GP about everything and seeing if you can talk to someone as it may help to get everything off your chest.
I thought I would also mention another lovely member here [@Chriss] who also lost her mum many many years ago and who seems to have also been very much affected by the loss of her mum. You are definitely not alone and I hope you will connect with many here who have lost a parent and still find it very hard years, even decades later.
There's no time limit on grief ... l lost my mum 29 years ago to a massive heart attack ... there in the morning, at 5.20 that day we lost her .. no time to hold her hand, or say good bye .. I was 36 ... she was my world and still is ...
I believe they watch over us .. and I know my mum would have tears up there if she saw me sad .. she was full of laughter .. so in her memory I try and be a little like her, as she reached out to everyone.. even strangers .. and saw the good in people ..
My son's were 7 and 16 at the time .. she looked after them with me always .. she adored them .. even now 29 years later, they still put photos of them with her on their face book.. still we laugh at the funny times we had with her .. I know she'd be content when she sees us laughing and smiling ..
We do learn to live without them, but missing them stays always ... it's the price we pay for being blessed to have had such wonderfull mum's .. but just look in the mirror... she made you, you are a part of her .. so whatever you do, where ever you go she's right there .. they just live tucked up in our hearts safely... where no one can take them away ..
So you know what your mum would say .. go on.. she's right there beside you... you just can't see her .. I've felt my mum around over the years .. but you have to BELIEVE... when I was diagnosed with breast cancer , I found white feathers everywhere ... some in my bra .. every day ... the day I got the news my mastectomy lump was contained with minimum risk of spread, they stopped ...
So live life in your mum's memory ... so she'll look down and say .. "that's my girl"
Thank you,I was 22 when she passed I am now 43..my mum was,53 know age.. I do miss her so much it still hurts.but I do get on with it.but my mum was best friend ,my mum dad all in one xxx
