Hi il start by saying I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum

my mum had a mass on her small intestine that had spread to her ovaries we found this out in March last year she had a hysterectomy followed by chemotherapy to keep the mass on her small intestine under control has they couldn’t remove it, she finished her chemotherapy in January this year and I gave birth to my baby boy beginning of February,her first grandson,she spent 7months with him and sadly passed away unexpectedly  6th September aged 58, she was not only my mum but my best friend aswell, I was their only child, I’m missing her so much and I just feel so lost without her

im sending you lots of hugs because I know exactly how your feeling xx

Hi Chrissie,

thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I’m so glad that I posted on here. It really helps when there are others who have been through/are going through the same sad situation.

Debbie ️

Hi Emsie,

I’m so sorry for your loss. Our mum’s will always be with us, it’s just so very painful and raw for us at the present time. Thank you for posting, as it just can be so isolating when going through this. It helps that we are not the only ones feeling this way. It’s such a gut wrenching emptiness that can never be filled.

Its good that your mum did get to spend time with her first grandson and hopefully in time, these memories will make you smile.

Take care of yourself my love. Here if you ever want to message and let off steam or just chat about things 

Debbie xxx

Sending you lots of love and hugs. 

It’s just so hard and I just feel robbed of my mum, life’s so cruel and I’ve gond through all the emotions including why me and my family and jealous when I see girls my age with their mums, it’s just so not fair xx

I totally get that too. I was away on holiday when I found out Mum was going into a hospice, every person I saw while on holiday seemed to be there with their mums. It broke my heart as I just knew that would never happen for me, although I didn’t expect mum to go so quickly but just seeing other women maybe pushing their mums around Benidorm in a wheelchair or sitting in a restaurant with them. I don’t know about you but I can’t go to places that I went to with mum yet, it’s just too painful.

We can all help each other on here, it doesn’t change how we feel as we all have to grieve in our own individual ways but talking on here really helps. I hear people say it will get easier but I can’t see how right now but hopefully in time we will be able to learn to live without them physically being here with us. I talk to my mum every day, it feels like she’s just in the next room. 

xxx

Hi debbie and emsie

I'm deeply sorry for your losses, as of 14th Sept i joined this awful club. It's great to chat to others in this situation, it makes me feel less alone. This is unfortunately our time to go thru this..every adult child will be faced with this at some point.

Chriss wrote some beautiful words and i love the concept of mum leaving a bigger part of her with me than a small part of me going with her. 

The only thing that will make this easier i think it's time, lots of it. 

I have also had so many signs from her and so many things have happened since she left. I still feel her with me on my right side and it's hugely consoling. The love our mum's have for us continues when they leave, the only difference is they are in the Spirit world which is eternally young while we are in the physical world. I keep talking to mum and i hear her voice and know she's with me. Today our family home has been smelling of roses which were her favourite flowers ( we have no roses or any flowers at the moment) keep open to signs, apparently the can come in the form of dream visitations, feathers, small stones, a small bird appearing for a short time, smells, messages being sent through someone who may noteven know they are the vehicle for those messages, touches, breath on side of your face to name but s small few..I'm trying to adopt the viewpoint that I'm not going to live forever and want to enjoy the time I've left (maybe enjoy at the moment is too ambitious but at least try to be grateful for the good things in my life) our mum's didn't give birth to us for us to be sad so i think we try to embrace life when this awful rawness of this goes

 There will be reasons to be joyful, happy and carefree again and I'm trying to remember that when i hit a trough. You are your mum's present to the world and try to be the best version of you when these early days pass. I have a friend who has a terrible relationship with her mum and despite my mum being in Heaven i can truly say that i feel luckier to have this ongoing never-ending love than my friend who has this ambivalent relationship with her living mother. 

Keep talking to your mum, ask her to console you, she will hear you and she will help you. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed so they have gone nowhere, they have merely transformed  so remember that.

Don't lose heart, keep going and remember better times ahead, we will be ok, our mum's will make sure of it.