Hi Jolamine,

Thank you for your lovely message at at time you are grieving too my sincerest condolences to you also got your loss.

Today has been a upsetting day making lots of phone  calls  and trying to get the death certificate from the hospital etc.. im trying to be strong for my Mum just feel worn out.

We have a provisional day for the funeral 2 weeks today still doesn't feel real. I've got 3 pieces of music photos and a poem organised for the Service so getting things together a little bit at a time.

I know it will get easier just feels like life will never be normal again just can't believe he's gone.

Thank you again for the message if means alot agsin I'm very sorry for your loss and hope your pain eases with each passing day too

Claire xx

Thanks 

Hi Claire,

You're lucky that you managed to chase things up today. It is a holiday with us and everything was closed. We will get into registering the death tomorrow before making the funeral arrangements. I managed to make a number of phone calls to family in Canada and have contacted all but 1 cousin.

My daughter and son-in-law came over tonight and we have chosen 3 songs and a poem for the service, decided on a charity to donate to and flowers.

We have managed to find my-mum-in-law's birth and marriage cerificates plus her medical card, which we need to register the death. It is not easy getting my 97 year old father-in-law to find any addresses  or papers. He feels that he can still do this, but it's not always the case.

I agree, there is so much to do in the first few days that you are kept going on Adrenaline. It's after the funeral that it all tends to hit you. You have quite a wait for the funeral. We were hoping to get a date for a week today, but we'll see what we can arrange tomorrow.

I'm not sure that it gets easier with time, but we come to terms with our loss in time and the pain doesn't seem quite so bad.

Take care of yourself.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine,

I would like to offer my sincere sympathy on the passing of your mother in law. It is good that she is now at peace but this doesn't make it any easier for yourselves. Eighty years is a long time to be together and your father in law is understandably devastated. My mother died in 2011, leaving my then 80 year old father on his own in total devastation. It has not been an easy journey with him struggling by himself and relying on me for so much. I lost my husband in 2016 to lung cancer, he was just 61, and my father seems to think it is easier for me on my own as I am so much younger. However and whenever death approaches it is never easy.

You have been such a support to many people on here with your always excellent advice whilst coping with your own and other family member's illnesses.

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Lynne.