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I miss my mum so much

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I miss my lovely beloved mum every day.. 

I go to bed praying to dream of my mum,   to dream of my childhood happy days, life carrys  on, lots of changes,  and I wish every second to tell my mum.. Omg  I miss so much our chats, me and my mum would talk for hours ..

Walking this life without my mum feels unbearable every day.. Its been 18 months since my mum died and it's not getting any easier... I just want to be with my mum xxx

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    Hi Poppy,

    I do understand how you feel. 

    I lost my mother over 12 years ago to cancer and I still miss her. To be honest I dont think we ever get over losing someone like our mother. For a mother is so many things all wrapped up together. Someone we can talk to and tell things we possible wouldnt anyone else; Someone we can turn to for help and advice and someone whos shoulder we can cry on or who we can have a good laught with. The word mother just doesnt do them justice. 

    Two things I will say to you. As I have mentioned I dont think we ever get over losing them but in time we do learn how to live with our loss. Second and I hope you will take comfort in this is that a part of your mother lives on inside of you for she helped shape the person you are.

    There have been times when I have felt my mothers influnce guiding me through life just as I hope you will once the grief wears off 

    Take care, sending kind thoughts your way, Brian

     

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    Hi Poppy,

    I had the same relationship with my mum, my mum and dad split up in 1978 and divorced in 80. Everything I did, was with my mum. We had the same sense of humour, so we just bounced off each other. My dad was in contact all the time, but he was a few counties away, as me and mum moved away for a fresh start. So my relationship with him isn't as close.

    I lost my mum really suddenly in 2007. It knocked me for 6. I had bereavement counselling after a year of not coping at all and it was the best thing I ever did. 

    I miss my mum every minute of every day. You never get over the loss, but your grief will ease with time sweetie. And you have your memories and nobody can ever take those away. 

    I also find writing letters to her, telling her all the things I can't tell her face to face, is really helpful. Just write them and either burn/shred them or file them away. It gets everything out of your system and helps you process the things you're feeling.

    Hope this helps? Sending love and hugs.

    Bx

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