Losing my dad

hi everyone I’ve been reading on this forum for a while trying to stay positive about my dad and the cancer he had. We lost him two days ago because of the cancer taking over his whole body and he had pneumonia as a result.

It All happened so quickly and I’m just so sad because he was my dad and I want him back. I know others have been through this but you don’t really comprehend it until it happens to you.It’s the most painful thing thing I’ve ever been through and I just wanted more time. I can’t help but think if he didn’t get the pneumonia he would have more of a chance even though the cancer had spread to many places and apparently this was very common in cancer patients.

 

I felt so powerless slowly watching him die and I just wish things could be different. We were all with him when he went but watching it all was really traumatic but we didn’t want him to be on his own. I love him like a son loved his father and I’m sad knowing the things he will miss and looking at the person he was and listening to his voicemails; how does this get better because now it’s so horrible.

  • Welcome to the forum Jugs08 although I'm so sorry for your loss.

    I'm glad the forum was able to be a source of support whilst your dad went on this journey and I hope it continues to be so whilst you work through this difficult period in your life.

    Although it doesn't seem like it at the moment, things will get better with time as our members have found out and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    My thoughts are with you at this time Jugs08.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Unfortunately I don’t have words of encouragement as i’m only 3 months into my journey, but I just wanted to say you are not alone in this. I to lost my dad from pneumonia due to lung cancer and was also with him when he passed away. If he hadn’t had caught pneumonia then he would have been around for quite a bit longer I believe but living an existence he was no longer in control of and hated everyday.  His passing still haunts me now and I can no longer look ahead just at the day ahead, hopefully it will start to get better! I’m trying to keep busy and do the things which I can manage and enjoy. I spend a lot of time with my mum as I believe it’s my duty now to make sure she is ok for my dad. I hope it starts to get better for you soon.