I lost my dad 3 months ago and I really miss him. I am going on holiday next week and it is my first ever holiday with out him I don't know how I will cope. Any tips
I've just come back from our first holiday without my mum. She was supposed to have come with us as we booked it before we got her diagnosis. I was worried that I would not want to be there but I just tried to keep myself busy. It was great to be away from it all if I'm honest and I feel so much better for going. I hope the same happens to you. Good luck x
Having based my life on being rational and objective in thought and deed, I have always mocked cliches and platitudes. But with my wife and I being diagnosed with cancer (hers for now much more serious and end-game than mine) in an 8 day period I'm starting to understand the value and purpose of simple thinking. So, with genuine seriousness and kindness I offer the usual.....time to move on. Remember the happy times, think how happy he'd be for YOU now.
Simply, life is not fair (it can't be, it's random), but you remain and you can at least quietly be happy without any disrespect whatsoever to your dad's memory. I only hope I am "remembered" with such affection - and I certainly wouldn't want it to interfere with my childrens' own lives.
As I sit in heaven ....... and watch you every day ...
I try to let you know with signs ..... l never went away ...
I hear you when your crying ...... and watch you as you sleep ....
I even place my arm around you, and calm you as you weep ....
I see you wish the days away .... begging to have me home ...
So I'll send you signs so you are not alone ...
Heaven is truly beautiful .... just you wait and see ...
So live your life .... laugh again ... enjoy yourself ... be free ...
And I'll know with every breath you take ... you'll be doing it for me ...
You havnt lost your dad, he just lives safely tucked up in your heart ... look in the mirror and tell yourself ... you are part of him ... he helped make you ... I know when my journey through cancer is over, I've told my loved ones ... I'll hold them when they cry... but then I want the good memories we had over the years .. and I'd better see them making every day count and when l hear them laugh, I'll be smiling down ... I'm sure your dad would not like you being so so sad ... remember the years you had with him ...
Don't cry because you loose someone you love... smile because you were blessed to have had them in your life (an old Buddha saying I came accross) Chrissie x
