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Cant get over the loss of my mum.

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Hi Everyone, I lost my beautiful mum in Jan this year, I cant come to terms with it. I still cant believe it, I feel cheated that she was taken from me and feeling really bitter that everyone can get on with their normal lifes. I had my 2nd baby in February, am so gutted mum never met her. Will this feeling ever change? 

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    Hi Fayed, your mum sounds like an amazing person and I am really sorry that you lost her in January. Sounds like it was sudden and unexpected? I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Sabine

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    Hi Sabine

    Thank you for your message. Mum was diagnosed July 2016. Started in the lung then spread everywhere. I gave up work to care for her so saw how much she went down hill. I just cant believe it and miss her dearly. I am debating on seeing someone to come to terms with my loss. 

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    I'm so very sorry that the cancer spread everywhere. And I'm really sorry that she seemed to go down hill.

    It sounds to me like it would be a good idea to talk to someone. Would the moderator of this forum be able to arrange that? I don't know myself. I know that there is free counselling for persons with cancer and their caregivers that is offered through Cancer Support Scotland

    0800 652 4531 or 0141 337 8199.

    I also came across a series of booklets put out by Macmillan that I picked up for free at my local library. They also offer support -- I am not sure if they have something like counselling or not. I will try to find that number and send it as well.

    Sabine

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    Hi Fayed, 

    I'm just following up on what [@Bibsi]‍ mentioned about talking to someone about your loss by letting you know about cruse bereavement. They specialise in helping people when someone passes away so do have a look at their website and maybe give them a call to see if they can help.

    Your GP should be able to point in the direction of other support services available to you in your area so do book to discuss this with them as well.

    Coping with grief is never easy but the memories you have of your mum will make sure she is with you always.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi Fayed,

    I was just thinking of you because I got a message about this forum. How are you? How are you doing with the loss of your mum?

    I am doing a lot better but the sadness sometimes creeps up on me and I still get choked up if I hear someone on the radio talking about missing a beloved parent/partner/child/friend.

    Sending you best wishes!

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    Hi Sabine,

    Thanks for your message.

    Erm, Im still trying to comes to terms with it. Still cant belive it has happened, have to keep reminding myself. 

    I did try speaking to someone but I dont think its for me. Maybe in a few years once I can come to terms with it.

     

    x

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    Hi Fayed,

    It's a little more than a year, so your loss is still very recent. And she never got a chance to see her new grandchild?

    Sabine

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