Hello Mya,

First of all,  I just wanted to send our sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. We are so sorry that you lost your nan to cancer. It sounds like it was a very traumatic experience for you to go and see her in the chapel of rest and that it is difficult for you to erase the way she looked from your memory. I would suggest you try and forget this last image of her and try and replace it instead with all the beautiful memories you have of your nan. Perhaps look at a photo album and cherish those moments and try and keep in your mind a picture of her when she was well. I am not sure whether the funeral has already taken place, and though it is a sad occasion it can also be a time to celebrate her life and to try and remember her and to cherish the memories you have together. I know it is difficult to do this though and that you may feel at the moment a bit shocked. Our page on Coping with Grief  may also be helpful and help you understand the emotional impact your nan's death may have had.

Others here I am sure have felt the same way as you after seeing a loved one who had just passed away and I am sure they will be along soon to share some tips with you about how they managed to feel better. They may have some strategies to help you stop reliving this difficult moment when you saw her at the chapel of rest.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator