Welcome to Cancer Chat, Lauz although I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

On behalf of everyone here at Cancer Chat, I offer you our sincere condolences.

It is only normal to feel the way you do right now and I hope that chatting with others here who can relate to your feelings will give you some comfort. 

Also, there is a page from our website that addresses the different stages of grief you might want to read if you find a moment, you can find it by clicking here.

Thinking of you at this difficult time.

With best wishes,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Lauz; sorry to learn of your auntie's death and your distress.  People do say things like that - they mean well and sometimes don't know what else to say - just accept that they are trying to be kind and reach out to you and it is better than not saying anything at all.  You are right to hate cancer - it is an evil beast - but even cancer cannot rob you of all the memories you have of times spent with your auntie and the love between you.  For the moment, just take each day at a time; perhaps spend a bit of time looking at photos of your auntie if you have these - and talk to her as you used to do - this can either be out loud or in your head - depending on where you are.  These are things I did when my mum died.  Do anything that makes you feel a bit better; if it helps you then it is the right thing to do.  There are no wrongs and rights.  I hope you have other family members with whom you can talk about your aunt and how you are feeling - it helps if all those affected by your auntie's death can support each other.  Best wishes.  Annie